Ta-tatata-tata-tatata-Krak-krak-krak-Boem!
De uitslag van het referendum in Engeland was een duidelijk signaal. Een eindsignaal, zouden wij bij Drum Cafe zeggen. En wat voor één.
Met een grote knal lieten de Engelsen zichzelf en velen in Europa verdwaasd achter. Brexit dus. En wat nu? Wat kon anders?
Als we de media doorspitten valt een belangrijke les in leiderschap op:
Communicatie is core business
Ik weet niet hoe het zit met uw parate kennis over de voordelen van een verenigd Europa, maar voor veel Britten gold dat ze maar met moeite iets konden opnoemen wat de moeite waard maakte dat ze bij de Unie bleven.
De voorstanders schermden met algemeenheden als bescherming tegen oorlogen, open grenzen, makkelijke werkvergunningen, een gezamenlijke munt en vrij vervoer van goederen. Over het algemeen onderwerpen waar met name overheden en bedrijven mee te maken hebben en de ´gewone man´ nauwelijks raken in het dagelijks leven.
De tegenstanders hadden een makkelijker taak; zij speelden handig in op sentimenten als het inpikken van werk en woning door migranten en vluchtelingen. Zulk soort populisme kennen we wereldwijd al eeuwen langer en wordt helaas altijd gebruikt in tijden van economische crisis.
Angst, zelfzucht en vooral onwetendheid zijn belangrijke drijfveren van gedrag van mensen. En dit gedrag zorgde er nu voor dat een betrekkelijk kleine meerderheid een heel grote beslissing kon forceren. Of dat ten goede of ten kwade is, laat ik aan u. Waar het hier om gaat is dat je als leider onwetendheid naar kennis moet ombuigen.
Want het is heel opvallend dat het belang van goede communicatie toch telkens is onderschat. Ooit zei een kameraad tegen mij over een heel ander onderwerp: ´je hebt het wel gezegd, maar ik heb het niet gehoord´. Dat kan aan mij hebben gelegen maar er hoort ook iets bij van willen horen. Want de boodschap was mogelijk niet zo prettig.
Dus als ontvangende partij moet je natuurlijk wel van goede wil zijn. Want als de boodschap je niet zint en jij een ander niet serieus neemt kun je er natuurlijk lekker overheen walsen; raggen met veel herrie en tromgeroffel, precies wat er vóór de Brexit-polls ook is gebeurd.
Het is net als met drummen. Niet ieder voor zich maar een beetje autistisch tikken op het drumvel maar kijken en luisteren; echt horen wat een ander bedoeld.
United we play, devided we pray
Brussel heeft de Britse sentimenten jarenlang als onbeduidend weggeschoven. En de Britse leiders hadden op hun beurt waarschijnlijk niet zoveel zin meer om het voordeel van een United Europa aan al die ´dommerds´ uit te leggen.
Maar uitleggen van ingewikkelde zaken aan gewone mensen zoals u en ik, dat is nou net één van de belangrijkste taken van een leider; dat karwei is nooit af. Daarvoor klinkt nooit het eindsignaal.
Dus bij Drum Cafe nemen we ook ruim de tijd om al die soms ingewikkelde ritmes aan u te leren. Zodat u niet ´off beat´ klinkt als je ´on beat´ moet zijn. Dat vergt soms geduld maar samen in harmonie klinkt toch leuker en is een stuk gezelliger. Speel maar mee…one beat at a time.
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Conference participants tend to be left brain oriented, overusing their mathematical and logical side of their brain. Intervening with a Drum Cafe event encourages right brain activity, thereby stimulating the delegates creativity needed to think out of the box.
Last weekend, I was fortunate enough to open the Behind Every Leader conference in Silicon Valley, hosted by Executive Assistants Organization (EAO). This conference was created by executive assistants for executive assistants to network, discuss challenges, and support one another as entrepreneurs and successful administrative professionals. A truly unique and powerful experience, I was blown away by numerous stories of fearless risk-taking and passionate endeavors. The attendees of this event were the gatekeepers of some of the most powerful and influential entrepreneurs and leaders of our time.
The impressive panel of speakers included Libby Moore, former COS to Oprah Winfrey; RoseMarie Terezino, former personal assistant to JFK Jr.; Adrianna Limon, executive assistant to True Blood Producer, Gregg Fienberg; Jenni Pulos, Bravo TV star of ‘Flipping Out’ and many more. Through each interaction and presentation, I was constantly reminded of how fortunate I was to be among this crowd. This was a room full of influencers and innovators, and I was lucky enough to open their conference and share my passion with them. I received some wonderful feedback about how uplifting and inspiring my Drum Cafe West program was, but truthfully, I myself was uplifted and inspired by the attendees.
So often, we distance ourselves from the possibility of life-changing success. We look at celebrities and high-powered officials, and we tell ourselves that they’re special—that they somehow know a secret about success that we don’t. But that just isn’t true. At Behind Every Leader, I was reminded that these superstars of their industries are no different than me. The only thing they did differently than most of us is have complete determination and confidence in the universe that things would work out as they were supposed to. That’s it—confidence.
I’ve written before about what it means to step into one’s power—it’s an essential component of tapping into our most valuable skillsets and embracing what makes a person uniquely gifted. At Behind Every Leader, I was reminded of the incredible influence that experience can have. When people are truly inspired by their work and they feel their work is important, they have a voice that rings out loudly. It’s why I’m able to tap into the heartbeat of corporations and kickstart change. It’s why Richard Branson can transform game-changing ideas into reality—because we love and believe in the possibility of what we can accomplish.
But we have to nurture these passions in order to make them successful. We can all agree you’re never going to make a flower grow by pulling on it, right? You have to give it water, sunlight, and space to grow. You can nurture it, but ultimately the success of the flower relies on you stepping back to let nature take its course.
So be determined. Be confident. Nurture your gifts, and then step back and get out of your way to let nature take its course.
Natalie Spiro Drum Cafe
In the music world, drummer jokes are always popular. Most of them have the same punchline: Drummers are idiots. Take, for example, the following: “How do you tell if the stage is level? The drummer is drooling from both sides of his mouth.”
Whether it’s being ruthlessly mocked for their idiocy, repeatedly killed inThis Is Spinal Tap or just lusted after less often than the lead guitarist (whom we’ve already studied), drummers walk a tough road. But it turns out science holds them in really high regard: They have a rare, innate ability to problem-solve and change those around them.
For starters, rock steady drummers can actually be smarter than their less rhythmically-focused bandmates. A study from the Karolinska Institutet in Stockholm found a link between intelligence, good timing and the part of the brain used for problem-solving. Researchers had drummers play a variety of different beats and then tasked them with a simple 60-problem intelligence test. The drummers who scored the highest were also better able to keep a steady beat. Apparently figuring out how to play in time is just another form of problem-solving. At last, hard proof that John Bonham really was a genius.
But even though a steady drummer may be more intelligent than his or her bandmates, the drummer’s gifts can be shared: a tight beat can actually transfer that natural intelligence to others. In studies on the effects of rhythm on brains, researchers showed that experiencing a steady rhythm actually improves cognitive function. One psychology professor at the University of Washington used rhythmic light and sound therapy on his students and discovered that their grades improved. Similarly, one researcher at the University of Texas Medical Branch used that method on a group of elementary and middle school boys with ADD. The therapies had a similar effect to Ritalin, eventually making lasting increases to the boys’ IQ scores.
Granted, these studies focused more on the effects of rhythm on the mind rather than on the mind behind the rhythm. That being said, drummers’ consistent rhythmic focus has positive effects on them and those around them (yes, even their neighbors). That’s because when drummers bring a steady rhythm (and corresponding problem-solving abilities) to a group setting, they actually create a “drummer’s high” for everyone around them. University of Oxford researchers discovered that when drummers play together, both their happiness levels and pain tolerance increase, similar to Olympic runners. We give you Phil Collins:
Observing that high led researchers to hypothesize that drumming was integral to community-building and that sharing rhythms could be the sort of behavior necessary for the evolution of human society. Thanks, Phil.
Drumming is a fundamentally human thing. A lot of modern music has shifted towards drum machines over humans to create ultra-precise electronic rhythms. But it turns out that what we typically perceive as error is really just a uniquely human sense of time: Researchers at Harvard found that drummers harness a different sort of internal clock that moves in waves, rather than linearly as a real clock does. They match an innate rhythm that has been found in human brainwaves, heart rates during sleep and even the auditory nerve firings in cats. When a human drummer plays, he or she finds a human rhythm.
So the stereotypes aren’t just baseless, they’re also plain wrong. A lot of these studies have to do with rhythm just as much as with drumming, but drummers are more engaged with those mental elements than most. They are people tapped into a fundamental undercurrent of what it means to be human, people around whom bands and communities form.
And admit it, sometimes they even write great songs.

